Thursday, June 5, 2008

THE PERFECT......

well..to start my real blogging.....i want to start off with topic....which is less talked about.....RelationsHips...
To start with...there is a relationship which people seek for...The Perfect Match......thts wht they call....well i too was in a wrong notion until sometime...but somethings changed my views drastically....
People describe ...feeling as first love...but i dont understand how can you like the person in 1 look....Its well said...."If you love a person in 1 look..have another 1"...I just dnt get how it happens....how can you not spend time...and say.."Pehli nazar mein pyar..and all bullshit"
Then there is a common notion i have seen in girls...saying....ohh look he is so Cute..he is so helpful...he calls me 10 times....a day...this guy has a older than me..must be more mature..(Are the same ages not??)....a this list goes on....cmmon you cant give the verdict on that...Then again...some say No..first when a guy proposes....they ask for time.....and then decide YEs..Wht is THt...why the time....which means tht there is somethng lacking which you feel isnt right....whtever it must be....Why not yes directly then.....it means tht there is feeling...there is some1 better still to come...
Then people say...that they havnt found thier perfect one....So what is the Fundaa of Perfect 1..wht is the description....This question was put forwrd by my friend baffled me.. & lead me eventually to write this blog....and i have my answer....which might be true....
YOu must have played maze when ur were younger....a piece will only fit beside each other if they are shaped properly...and will stay together....So my idea of perfect 1 will be...some1 who are perfect for each other...and fit in the Maze called life.....and tht wont happen....with 1 look..and few dates...Two people will be perfect if they understand each other well....only 1 look should make 1 person realize that if the other happy..or somethng is wrong....
Now how will one find or know that both are perfect or not....thts the big queston....Well..you asked the question and you are the answer.....ITs about Time...sometimes....you tend to be more open to some people even after knowing them for a short time....sometimes you feel tht not even ur best friend could had helpd you out in this problem....but you still tell him/her...It isnt about people having similiar views..it about people having simliar view on some....and not on some....Its just..bring about the variety...which will always be pleasing...and not the same old views
Its not how helpful...or how kind he/she was.the amount he/she Loves.you..its about how you feel....its about how your conversation goes.....how the talks lengthen..even if there wasnt any topic to speak....how time runs!!!....even if you were meeting for the 15-16th time of the day....you just feel tht one more time will be better....
There cant be any kind of description or anything so that he/she will be this or that...when you meet such a person...and things just roll on...its then you realize tht the girl/boy....isnt the 1 you dreamt about but you kind of get attracted to him/her....So...wht i thought was that we should stop finding the special one....coz 1 day they will bump into you...or already have.....its just on us.....to decide....who he/she will be or was..

21 comments:

abhimanyu said...

dude peheli nazar mein pyaar is not bullshit...

goti said...

pehli nazar is bullshit..... i agree with u nitin ... i kinda agree with everthing here...

kapil said...

Hi Nitin,

I agree with you when you say there is nothing called as love at first sight. However being a hopeless romantic myself, I wonder if it was true. Will it not be lovely to know everything at the first sight?
I would have saved a lot of money, time and most importantly the number of emotional knock downs (LOL)

I just want to add to Nitin that, guys don’t wait for your perfect match. Losers, who cannot get anything, say that. Let loose, have some fun & for a change take a little risk. It does not have to be a sexual relationship.

Don’t fear the ‘NO’ word. If you receive it, it is probably for your own good. May be she/he was not worth you. I believe in a theory that there are x number of no’s a person has to take before he gets a yes. Take this no as one of those and move on. You are one step closer to the yes.

CHETAN said...

Bro... never new you could write something so nicely.. i totally accept your answer..! and surely..no other answer would be as good as this.!
Just a comment, its not always that the perfect person u find for yourself will feel the same way for you..sometimes its too late by the time you realize that yes he/she would have been perfect. So its not just one person realizing it but both, unless that happens the maze is always going to be incomplete and no other piece would ever fit in it properly.
unfortunately, due to the recent craze of having a gf/bf as soon as possible, people take decisions when they have not even reached that age of maturity, and feel they have their love. which finally fails.(not in all cases, some cases have been successful but less percentage.)
So just hope, u r other half of maze soon realizes, else u make him/her realize what u feel.

ALL the best in finding your Maze piece.. i am sure you would not make a mistake in that.

sachin said...

really breath taking..dude i think you should start writing articles.. i really loved it.. very few of us have these capabilities..u r one of them...u rockkkkkkk...cheers

Madmech said...

Hey Nitin, nicely written. This Amogh,Chetan's friend. I would like to modify ur defination of perfect match a bit.

Yes they are the ones who fit in each other's jig-saw of life- but the only difference from the jig-saw we used to play is that here the pieces are not rigid but flexible. And the picture changes with the age. So it may happen that sometimes we can make the pieces fit perfectly well if we want them to. And then we will never regret on having forsaken a perfect one sometimes earlier in life. There will allways be another picture waiting to be completed.

pavan said...

Nice one man. I really appreciate the way of ur thinking and putting them in words. keep it up Chetan jr.

Seema said...

yup....u figured it out rite....and guess at the rite time too...ppl of your age seem to be in a hurry to get into relationships...guess its all about peer pressure...everything happens at its own pace in life...so dun be a hurry and the best will happen to you :)...

No Name said...

Hi Nitin!


Greetings from No Name, this is my blogger name. Hey, you are talented writer!!!
Hmmm, what to say about your topic...comments? Ya...I think, that about RelationsHips is too much talking about. We can read it in books, newspapers, everywhere...only feelings, relations, love...etc, between people, countries...even politics can´t live without RelationsHips...I think the biggest problem is, that people do not really communicate with each other, to write is easy (or not...), but if there is really a problem, then...where are the feelings, where is love...? We do and act very often without thinking...We all sing nice songs about love and relations...this is dream, only...maybe it is too realistic beginning...Ooki, you are writing about first love. There is different kinds of love and this feeling is different and we can express it true music, poems, if we talk about or just say nothing...LOVE...what is it? If we would know that, we wouldn´t write about it...is first love feeling, do you feel it? What do you think about first love? Ya, thats true, girls are talking like that, but guys...too...;)...this is also love, but the beginning of it, real love is a long way to go...sometimes too long and you think, where is the end of way...ya, most of girls thinking this way, she would like to be the princess and this proposal, you was writing...but not every girl is thinkig so. Sometimes you meet someone, he / she is totally different, not the standard, like everyone, you don´t have to search for her, I call it destiny or just luck...take it as it comes and enjoy the life...:)...life is like ice cream, enjoy it bevore it melts...You are talking about TIME, this is important too, sometimes is good to wait, sometimes...there is no perfect way to act...I agree...communication...I can´t live without it...For me is important, what I really feel, deep inside me and then comes the answer...LOVE...is to care about comeone, you think on this person day and night, you are helpful and sweet, you would like to kiss her / him and LOVE means to live in Paradise...this is short rewiew and answer to your opinion, if you have questions, I write you back, best wishes for you and success in writing...I know what LOVE means, because I feel it now...:)...

yellow99green@yahoo.de

CHETAN said...

to make it short and sweet...i just have one word dear.....

"BAAAAAAAAAAPP........"

Swapnil. Bhosale

Rachana said...

hey tintin,

i wouldn,t say that love at first sight is all bullshit....there r many people who've fallen in love at first sight n r still goin strong but 4 me i believe that 2 fall in love wid someoe its necessary to know a person...not that one should be aware about everything but still a rough idea to know whether their wavelengths match or not...i guess itz necessary to have a long-time strong relation...

kapil said...

hi,

I have a question for you Rachana. What do you mean mean when you say that the wave lengths should match. Could you please elaborate on that.

The reason I ask you this is because I believe the core reason behind this topic are these vague and broad terms used by women.

Rachana said...

well kapil let me tell u that these terms which u call VAGUE r used by men too...Infact many a people use the excuse dat OUR WAVELENGTHS DONT MATCH to breAk off relations...

Wavelengths 4 me mean that something about a person should click as in u knw there r people wid different mind set-up's n attitudes who need a certain level of understanding care n concern....so basically these things should match...n as its very well said dat OPPOSITES ATTRACT the same principle is applied there..only a patient person can take in an impatient attitude as he falls in the listeners category...

kapil said...
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kapil said...

Hi Rachana,

Opposites attract but only in movies and story books.

Going back to your first post you said and I quote, “I believe that 2 fall in love with someone it’s necessary to know a person”. WOW. This is new to me, till date I thought love was spontaneous. It just happens without any apparent cause. Correct me if I’m wrong. But, if my definition is true I don’t think it is necessary to know that person. Your version sounds more like more like a business deal, you understand what features the product has to offer, what price it is for, warranty etc and then you buy the product. Love I think is unconditional


To give you an example of what or how I think the feeling of love is.

When you go to any store to buy a pair of jeans, you go in, have a look at the stand that holds the various shades of blue & there is this blue that you always wanted. You take that pair to the changing room and try it, as soon as you put your one leg inside that pair you just know it if it is going to fit or not. And, when it fits you must know great it feels. The feeling of love very close to this only multiplied 1000 times.

Forgive me for my example, but it is the best I could come up with.

In the same context if I were to put what you said; it would sound like, you wear the jeans, hangout in the market, have an ice-cream and then take a call if you like it or not.

Rachana we are going in the same direction but the way you have arranged your journey is something that I don’t agree with. I am not saying that it is wrong, just that I think it is not the right way to fall in love.

kapil.jagdale@gmail.com

Rachana said...

Hey Kapil if my idea of opposites attract is only true in movies then even ur idea that love should be unconditional n its not necessary to know or understand a person is highly bookish n philosophical..

there is a difference between falling in love n buyin a pair of jeans...if later i get bugged up wid d jeans i can throw it off but love is somethin that lasts 4 long and 4 it to last 4 long one shud knw a person...it can happen that today i fall in love wid someone widout knowing him n tomorrow i repent 4 it for the fact that just coz i didnt know him i took a wrong decision...may be our thoughts wont match, may be we wudnt be able 2 understand each other and then wat....break-up....thats really not ma cup of tea...so i'd better know the person n decide on so that we can have a good long-lastin n healthy relation...

u must have heard people sayin that friendship is the begining of love...Friendship here means nothin but exploring a person...being given a choice in ma life between a friend n a stranger to fall in love with i wud off course choose a friend coz i knw him better , i like him n i knw hw well we'll b able to carry of a relation

shweta said...

hey..
who that is your friend who jerked you to write such wonderful blog?

Nitin said...

well it was a great idea by my friend but i feel that most of it was my ideas.hehe

bhavya said...

nice blogg nitin...neva knew u cud write so well

bhavya said...

nice 1..i din't knew u write so well..kp it up

pri said...

gud one.. such a blog is not expected from a guy of an age, where guys r in a hurry to get into relationships (wat my experience tells me or rather i have heard guys talking.. omg i dont have a girl frnd n that fool has got such a nice one..) so my point is.. just be what u r.. two fingers r not the same.. naturally u n ur frnd will not have the same desination.. gud u have pointed out that pehli nazar mein pyaar n all us bullshit n even i bliev that.. ppl who go for looks end up breaking their relationship in a month or two.. coz they just bump into someone who is attractive n have no idea abt their character or behaviour or even their past.. n ya.. i end my comment here as this topic has a never ending discussion.. well i wish u all the best.. u ll definitely get ur perfect partner.. just leave it to god.. it will happen wen it has to happen..
keep writing this good stuff.. this may change someone's thinking in a good way.. u never noe..